“[I must get over] the idea that the value of love rises as the self dwindles.” — Susan Sontag the strength of love is not at the expense of identity and self
You think presence is presence. I know that absence is more than.
It has been said that neurotics build castles in the sky, while psychotics live in them, and psychiatrists collect the rent. — Thomas Lewis, A General Theory of Love
What do you do in the moment that you know that everything that happened before means nothing anymore and all you have is what comes next?
“I don’t read the newspaper on the weekends. I’ve no time for the ‘cruel facts’ of life when there are 48 hours of real life to be had.”
“You are not raising children; you are raising adults.
I want to open my hands and release all of the threads — to feel cool, new air on my palms, the caress of it on my lifelines, this whisper of unburdened hope.
“Love isn’t emptying yourself out – it’s the exact opposite! It is filling yourself to the brim, to the bursting, with the essence of someone else, and doing the same in return for them. It isn’t a diminishment into the absence of oneself; love is the something more that only comes with someone more.”
In the day-to-day trenches of adult life, there is actually no such thing as atheism. There is no such thing as not worshiping. Everybody worships. The only choice we get is what to worship…
“The more I struggle to hold onto your memory, the more I must forget, because it is easy for hurt to overwhelm love, and I only want the love to be left.”