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No Judgment Circle

I’ve always told my friends that I am a “no judgment circle”. I just never let on that the circle never extended to include me.

Don’t we all do that? I think so.

We muster up, we have so much, compassion and care and forgiveness for others. We find and give empathy and sympathy; the well of mercy and pity never runs dry…for others.

But for ourselves? Oh, the ugly things we think and feel about ourselves and say to our own ears: “You’re so stupid, so foolish. Don’t you know any better? Didn’t you learn anything? Failure. Loser. Creep. Patsy. Ugly. Filthy (not in the good way). Weirdo (not kindly). What a waste of a mind. No-talent awkward freak. You are worth nothing; you are nothing. Nothing.”

If someone else told us that we would call that person a bully or an abuser because that’s exactly what it is: bullying and abuse.

So, stop.

Extend that circle. Make it bigger, wider, and deeper. Grow it. Build it. Reconstruct it.

Extend that no judgment circle to include you because you are so deserving of its embrace.

Embrace yourself.


About Quinn

In it but not of it. A reformed player, now watcher. Speaker of raw truths.


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Raison d’etre

"Raw," she said. "I want something primal. I want something bare and naked. I want you to give me this life raw, unbidden, unhidden, free, fair, and true. Can you do that? Can you do that for me?"

One may only try.

April 2013
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